Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Dating My Man

Do you date your husband? I do on special occasions, however most of the time our life gets busy and marriage becomes routine. We do the same thing over and over, because that is what makes us comfortable. Being comfortable is good, but not if you take that to an extreme and become lazy.

I want to date my husband this year!

Yes, you heard me right, I have decided to date my husband this year! I am so excited about it that I had to share it with you.

The four years we have been married I have placed very high expectations on Jon in the area of romance. I wanted him to plan romantic dates for us, like the kind you watch in chick-flicks. Much to my dismay, I discovered that my husband is not a natural romantic. The truth is that he cannot read my mind and therefore has a hard time trying to figure out what to plan when I do not tell him what I want.

I’ve been listening to a sermon series titled, “The Peasant Princess” by Pastor Mark Driscoll. In this sermon series Pastor Mark digs deep into the heart of the Song of Songs. Something that surprised me more than anything else is that Pastor Mark talks about how the wife in this book, takes initiative in her sexual relationship with her husband. She did not wait for her husband to figure out what she wanted, she told him. She was not ashamed or embarrassed to show her husband that she loves him by taking the lead in this area.

I want to be a woman that is confident enough to take the first step to love my husband in creative and fun ways. Thankfully, my friend Elise was telling me about this website called, The Dating Divas. You must check out this website.

Here is what The Dating Divas say about themselves:
In a nutshell, each Monday the Divas will offer an awesome date already completely planned for your upcoming weekend! {Aw geez… you’re totally welcome!} Throughout the rest of the week we’ll also post quick & easy ideas to serve your spouse, unforgettable family outings and activities with the kids, intimate moment ideas to spice things up in that room, and fun “romance” crafts to boot! There is definitely something for every couple! {Don’t forget to check out our archives for dates you may have missed!}

This sounds like so much fun! At the risk of being a little cheesy I tried one of these dates this past weekend. I tried The Spouse Sleepover Date, because it an inexpensive and fun idea for an evening together. Jon loved it!

We played Guess Who? I baked Jon's favorite cookies and we watched a movie!

I got a mixture of junk food for Jon and healthy veggie straws for me to eat during the movie.

I moved our bed out into the living room so that it could really feel like we were having a sleepover.

I want Jon and I to be able to go on more fun dates like this one. I pray that God would make me more like the woman in the Song of Songs and give me the courage to love my husband in more fun and romantic ways this year!

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Marlene said...

Thanks for sharing the dating website. What a fun site. I added it to my Google Reader as a gentle reminder. :)

-J.Darling said...

Looks great!

In my first marriage, we had a weekly date night scheduled. That date was just as important as any other appointment. When things were tight financially, I developed the $15 date. $15 won't break most people's banks, so we figured out things like - making breakfast together and going to a matinee in the morning on the weekend. Or going out just to share some wine/tea and dessert together.

When the going get tough- the tough get creative!

I'm currently in a long distance relationship w/ my fiance and we do "Netflix dates". We both dial up the same movie on netflix and start it at the same time. We then dial in to Skype or put our phones on Speaker. Free and fun!

Losing Brownies said...

I want to date my hubby! That sounds like such a great idea!

Living a Changed Life said...

Marlene - You're welcome! I just love the ideas on that website.

J. Darling - Skyping and watching a movie together is a great idea! I know what you mean about getting creative.

Losing Brownies - You SHOULD date your hubby!

Weightless said...

Great suggestions. My hubby and I had our first date last weekend in at least a year and a half. It was AMAZING! So nice and we both agreed we need to do it more often. Dating is so important in keeping a marriage happy and healthy.

Thanks for the website, I will be checking it out for more ideas.

katlupe said...

What a wonderful idea! Excellent post!

Jaimie said...

Haha Hubby & I don't do it often.. but when we do have little cheesy dates like this.. they are the best! to be honest, i prefer them over the big expensive dinner dates anyways.. lol more giggling.. :)


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